I’m not sure when the metamorphosis began that propelled men care deeply what a woman does with their hair. But a lot of men do care – DEEPLY – and the idea that the rest of should care is like a metastasized tumor on my social media feed. Primarily this is part of the natural hair movement. I have nothing against natural hair, in fact, I do believe it’s something women should think about doing for health purposes alone. With that being said, I don’t place much thought into it if they choose to do otherwise.
It just seems now that there is a radicalization of the “trend”. Without fail each day my Facebook timeline filled with men… that’s right men, demonizing women for wearing perms, weaves, wigs and any other “mutations” women may use other than their natural hair. I have no issue with advocating natural hair, but the level of vitriol is surprising especially coming from men.
I’m one who takes a simple approach to women and their hair: Do they like it? Am I paying for it? If the answers are yes and no, respectively, then I’m good. But these are different times and like the black power movement of the 70’s, there is more to the natural hair movement amongst black people than mere fashion; it is a display of love for self, for their blackness and an affirmation of enlightenment.
This is my primary issue with seeing men push this. There is a misogynistic undertone at times where it feels as if black men are saying “you, black woman, are unworthy of my affection if you wear a weave as you are perpetuating the poison of white supremacy”. Granted, not every man is coming from that level of angst but there are enough out there that I wonder how much of this is actually a concern for women’s health and how much of it is ideology.
Now, I realize there is an image problem with black people and culture consciences ebbs and flow. But if we’re not careful, the pendulum may swing too far and the results may not turn out as expected. Possibly, the better approach would be to advocate, educate and accept and maybe, just maybe more black women will gravitate towards their natural hair without feeling as though black men are pulling their hair out in the process.